Winter Self-Reflections (wow, that sounds literary!!)

I recently received a Facebook message from a guy who I really don't know at all. We had one mutual friend, so I can only assume that he is a listener of the station where I work. The message was this:

What is it you're looking for in a man? 

Have you just not run into him yet?

I guess I should expect messages like this when I make fun of myself ad nauseum for being single. My reply was this:

 I'm not really looking! But if someone comes around, I am willing to get to know him.

And he replied:   
You're a good person. You deserve a good man to be there for you. I hope you cross paths with him in the near future.

Now remember, he doesn't know me in person. He knows me from my online interactions, all those things I do on social media. The quotes I post, the stupid quizzes I take, the memes I share. How does he know I 'deserve' a good man to 'be there' for me? 

I mean, in real life, I'm a pretty addictive person. When I'm into it, I do EVERYTHING too much. Sometimes to a fault. Count calories, count carbs, drink wine, love, nurture, surround myself with 'stuff', watch Criminal Minds, be bitchy, eat nachos, be stubborn, spray paint household items, lay in bed on a ...well you get the picture! It'd take a certain kind of nut ball to be able to handle that. NO disrespect to ExHub 1 and ExHub 2, but my 'chooser' was out of whack both those times.

But let's not forget the most important part:

There is no one I'm 'looking for.' I've traveled that path in the past - The Looking Path - and have banged into a lot of dead ends. NOT a way to stumble through life!

There are no holes in my life that need to be filled. I'm 43: I have what I NEED in life. I own a home, a car, can financially support myself and my children. I guess, if you were searching for a word, you could say that my life is 'complete.' I still envision my future (post-kids-in-school) the way I have for at least a decade:

But. And this is a BIG but for me. ( I like big butts and I can not lie - Thanks, Sir Mixy!). Even the most 'complete project' has room for an addition.

Shhhhhhh...that's a secret just between you and me!!