ONE?

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Timothy Oliveira sets the stage for my thoughts with this quote: There are two kinds of sparks, the one that goes off with a hitch like a match, but it burns quickly. The other is the kind that needs time, but when the flame strikes... it's eternal, don't forget that.

Why do some people bother us and other people leave us hot and bothered? Why do we want to wrap our arms around one but only our legs around another?  Why does it take so long to warm up to one person while the other occupies our thoughts from the starting block? There’s the one you can cut out of your life without another blink juxtaposed against the one that haunts your heart for years.  The one that you feel differently about now than you did before.  Why does one person capture our attention but not another?

Why him and not him? 

Why her, but not her?

Why one night?

Why forever?

Is there a ONE?  Or are there several small ones?

I keep banging into these thoughts like a defective bumper car.  I can’t say, definitively, that I know if there is a ONE.  At least I haven’t successfully met mine yet.  Or maybe I did and I was too busy with replacement or 'scrub' ones.  I think I would have preferred there be a picture in my baby book along side the date of my first tooth, first shot, first bath…a picture of my predestined ONE. 

Some like the thrill of the hunt but where I’m concerned, the hunt can stay in the jungle. 

The process is so tedious.  So demeaning.  So revolting.  So frightening.  So tiring.

So sad.

I love that I am surrounded by couples who have managed to find each other.  They are each others'  ONE, the ONE that they will fight to keep. 

I hope that once I have fought through the jungle, participated in the hunt, fumbled with my matches, I will still have the energy to fight for the love I’ve found.  I haven't yet.

I’ll take a nap now just in case and leave you with some more good words from more famous people:

Mignon McLaughlin
Love unlocks doors and opens windows that weren't even there before.

Helen Rowland
Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common sense.

Mandy Hale
Don't ignore the love you do have in your life by focusing on the love you don't.

Charles du Bos
Love does not care to define and is never in a hurry to do so.

Anonymous
It's so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you.